Instilling the willingness to suffer

There’s a blog post and video by a long-time soccer coach in which he talks about what it takes to truly excel in sports – or really just about any worthwhile endeavor. You can watch the video below, or read the post (largely the same content) at the blog here.

I like the bit about Anson Dorrance and Mia Hamm – how it’s not about what an athlete does when everyone is watching, but what they do when nobody is watching. For me, though, in the context of volleyball coaching I think the real thrust is that of expectations and acceptance.

We cannot let players coast. To do so is a disservice to them and to the team. Unfortunately, it is always easier to coach to the median. That means we focus our efforts on the large group of players who are in the middle. We also maybe spend a bit of extra time with those who are struggling to strengthen the weakest link. However, we cannot neglect our strongest players. We need to find ways to keep them progressing as well. That means we do not just push them ourselves. We also to instill in them the willingness and desire to push themselves.

That’s the willingness to suffer to achieve one’s goals (where suffering is often physical, but also comes in other forms such as giving up personal for group objectives, having to give up social time, etc.). It’s not something which is only relevant to those who seek to be elite players either. Nor does it only relate to individuals as it can apply to teams as well. It’s up to us coaches to instill that mentality, or to weed out those who don’t value things enough to suffer in some way for them – at least when working in the context of a competitive development environment.

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John Forman

John is a volleyball coach, performance director, and coach educator with 20+ years of experience across the NCAA (all three divisions plus junior college), university and club volleyball in the UK, professional coaching in Sweden, and juniors clubs. He has also served as a visiting coach with national team, professional club, and juniors programs in multiple countries.

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